Showing posts with label Father. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Father. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 03, 2025

Honoring My Father - Part 1: Dedication, Studying Under Highway Lamps, New Homeland Haveli, 1947 Partition Legacy - IMRAN®



Honoring My Father - Part 1: Dedication, Studying Under Highway Lamps, New Homeland Haveli, 1947 Partition Legacy - IMRAN®

Christmas Day used to be my beloved mother's birthday, whom we lost too young in 1992. The time spanning December 21/22 in 2008 is when we lost my precious father.

When my friend Kyle recently shared his childhood memories of growing up in rural Kansas before electricity reached his family’s farm, it reminded me of my own father’s journey in Pakistan. Kyle’s story of kerosene lamps and battery radios resonated with me because my father too began life in places where electricity was scarce.

My father was a Partition‑1947 orphan. As a preteen, he survived a massacre of Muslims by Sikh mobs during a bus convoy from Jalandhar (now in India) to Gujranwala (now in Pakistan). Our new ancestral lands were about ten miles outside Gujranwala, in a village called Butranwali.

Even the family’s home, their village-landlord Haveli — a manor‑like house — had no electricity. Across the road stood a solitary tall electricity pole, one of few placed many miles apart along the single lane two-way ‘highway’ to Sialkot, a city still famous for its surgical goods and FIFA footballs. Behind the family Haveli were mud and brick huts where the farmhands lived, along with the fields and a twin‑bull‑powered mechanical primitive equivalent of a tubewell that irrigated the land before electric pumps existed.

While his brother and brother-like first cousins played, my father dedicated himself to studies. He would sit under that solitary lamp on the highway, studying late into the night. Each day, he rode his bicycle eight to ten miles to school in Gujranwala. His determination carried him far: he became a civil engineer, eventually rising to Chief Engineer in the Punjab Irrigation Department in the early 1990s, shortly before my mother passed away unexpectedly young, just before what would have been his retirement years to spend with her.

Today, Gujranwala has expanded so much that our ancestral Haveli and village are now bustling housing schemes. The Haveli actually stayed in the family, with my first cousin expanding his business into a real estate local empire. Even our family graveyard a short distance from the home still remains, a place where we pay respects to those who came before us and whom we will meet again one day.

(To be continued: how my parents’ focus on education shaped our lives, and how electricity defined both comfort and struggle in the towns where we grew up…)

© 2025 IMRAN®

PS I am in the AI industry, but have zero interest in people posting fake AI creations as real photographs. I do not mind using it to create infographics or images to accompany articles or blog posts. Since I do not have any photos of that time in my father's life, I used AI to create an image and then worked on it myself as homage to his dedication to which my family and I owe everything. 

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Sunday, June 19, 2016

Last Birthday With Abu - IMRAN™

 

Last Birthday With Abu - IMRAN™

As a kid I left home in Punjab, Pakistan, to live with my grandmother in Karachi, for a better education. My mother and siblings would visit during the holidays. Dad would sometimes come with them. His work with the irrigation department meant many holiday periods coincided with floods in areas he was responsible for irrigation and safety of rivers, canals, dams, etc. But it also became a family ritual that he would surprise us by taking a flight and coming to see us in Karachi. 

Keeping the tradition alive later in Lahore, I would sometimes do the same. But it became even more exciting to be able to surprise my family by showing up in Lahore unannounced while giving the impression I was in New York unable to visit. 

Based on Columbia Business School schedules and later pace of life in NY, my attempt was always to go to Pakistan for my birthday, May 23, even though it is brutally hot in summer.

I tried to twice annually. Over time, as my Surprise visits became more predictable, I mixed it up by going for my parents’ birthdays, December 25 & August 22. 

After Mom's unexpected death too young on 2/2/1992 I started going on that day too. Since flights from New York to Lahore were on certain days a week, my family expected me to 'surprise' them on those days. I would counter that by traveling from other cities, like Washington, DC, to take a longer flight from there on different day. (Remind me another day to tell you the most surreal travel story of my life that happened in one such trip).

In 2008 I was working in Miami, unaware that a very tough time was coming up.  One of my loves T and I worked at an organization in Miami, where management was trying to do something definitely unethical and self-serving use of state funds meant for children on welfare. I was working as a CIO but on a consultant, not full time employee, basis. I was asked to come on full time. Certain that if I did that and did what I was being asked to sign off on, one day I would be left holding the bag for their shenanigans. So, we parted ways in April 2008. 

Abu had been paralyzed by a stroke in 2002 but was otherwise in good health and spirits. I had seen him a few months prior, in a typical short surprise trip. This time I decided to spend more time with him, and managed to surprise them all with my arrival in May. 

It was typical hot weather. Because of incompetence and corruption of EVERY ruler in Pakistan, from Sharif to Bhutto to treasonous Army generals, power failures are a daily routine, sometimes for 12-18 hours in some areas!

Even inside the house, it gets hot quickly. You can see the sweat on my face as I had someone take a candid photo with Dad as he was reading a medicine's packaging. 

I am so glad I spent two months with him then. I came back to NY in July but then went back to surprise him on his birthday in August. I stayed another two months, not too worried about going back to work in NY, as I had plenty of money saved up and stocks. Little did I know that within months it would all be gone. 

Every time I used to bid adieu to my father I always soaked it all in; time and feelings, sights and sounds, love and lifelong bond. One never knows when it is the last time you meet a loved one. 

I came back to New York around October. I was going to do a third surprise trip within one year after a long time, for my late Mom's birth date, but Christmas rush meant there were no seats. 

As God would will it, Abu passed away unexpectedly, not from the stroke but from the effects of aspirating some food accidentally. Within weeks of that all I had built up over 20 years living and working in America was lost in the economic meltdown of 2009, starting one of the most difficult times of my life, from which in some ways I am still recovering. 

But, there is not one thing I would change about the four months of 2008 that I was able to spend with Abu.

Happy Father's Day, Abu, every day, in heaven,

 

Imran

© 2008-2016 IMRAN™

 

Monday, December 29, 2008

12/25/2008 Sunset Tribute Departed Parents, Beloved Father Anwar-ud-Din 1932-2008 & Cherished Mother Nargis 1942-1992



December 25th, 2008 - birth anniversary of Nargis Anwar, my beloved mother. A tribute to her & my beloved father, Anwar-ud-Din, who left us forever on December 21, 2008. Sunset at Fire Island, Smith Point Park, Long Island, New York, one of his favorite places to visit in 1996.

100 seconds for a lifetime of giving more than 100% of their lives to giving us incredible lives of love. Ami, Abu - as the sunset on your time on earth - you are now free as two birds - seen flying in unison in front of the sun before disappearing from sight, forever.

God bless you, always.